But it's also unrealistic in my mind on many fronts, because we do change so much over the years. I mean, on one hand, I think that marriage is beautiful because it keeps you accountable in all seasons to someone that you love. Length is not necessarily the yardstick by which we should measure success. I don't think that it's the end-all be-all, though, you know?Īnd length, as you said earlier. If that's how you work best and you find fulfillment in that, I think that it's a very beautiful thing. I mean, I just don't think that marriage is for everyone. They ran a business side by side for 30 years together with two kids. They have a baby now, and my parents are still together. And then you've got my sister and her husband, who have been together since they were 14 and 16. Darrell Gene and Barbara Dean, they're like a classic American love story. They're in their 80s and are genuinely happy. My grandparents met in second and third grade, and they're still together. I come from a long line of long marriages, relationships that I really admire. Please, God, help me be a good wife, because he needs me and I need him too, you know? It's kind of idealistic, like, I could bring him coffee and I could pack him a bowl when he comes home. Musgraves: This song is before the life event in the album – it's really just kind of a personal prayer to myself and to the universe, to God, to Goddess or whoever, saying: 'Please help me come through and be the kind of person that I need to be for this other human that I've committed my life to.' There is a little bit of humor in that song, but also I am humbling myself to ask for help, because I might not have all the tools that I need to be who I need to be for this person. You're essentially asking yourself in this song, "What did I do wrong? What could I have done differently?" And this is a thing that humans tend to do after a breakup.Īll Songs Considered Crying To 'Space Cowboy': 25 Bummer Bops For When Love Sucks I imagine it will feel very real to a lot of women. I listened to "Good Wife" again and again and again. That's kind of the best thing you can do is try to convey how you feel over such a complicated matter. That's why I felt like this album had to be 15 songs. I don't think that any one emotion or song can really speak for how I feel. But then, yeah, a little bit of anger, a little bit of bargaining, a little bit of struggling to accept where you are. It's a feeling of confidence and empowerment mixed with extreme fear and sadness and guilt and depression, but hope for the future. And then some days I'd wake up and be like, 'What the hell am I doing?' One day I would feel extremely validated in where I was going. I mean, I felt like a rubber bouncy ball, bouncing from emotion to emotion. And I've found out a lot about the fact that healing is not linear. I've been doing a lot of reading about the stages of acceptance, the stages of grief and healing. Musgraves: I wanted to honor myself as a songwriter, being able to convey the wide range of emotions that I have felt over my healing journey. Did you find yourself consciously leaving anger out of this? There's not a lot of anger on this album. I know you have the ability to write angry songs. The divorce is a big part of it, right? Because it's a big part of your life, as you said.
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But this album is full of a lot of love and gratitude for that person, for Ruston, for my life and my ability to explore all the emotions as a songwriter. You can easily say it is a post-divorce album, which yes, it is factually on paper. I just don't think that that's fully accurate. I think it's interesting that we're all taught that the success of a relationship has to somehow correlate with the length of it – in that it could be a friendship, a business relationship, a marriage or whatever. This is no different, I think that this album is full of love and gratitude. And I'm going to keep singing it for years to come.
I can still find a lot of gratitude and a lot of beauty and meaning in that record. I think that the magic of that album does not have to end with that relationship. It's almost hard to even encapsulate everything that I've experienced and learned through this last chapter.īut at first I was like, OK, so people may know me as "the Golden Hour girl." I think that a lot of people got to know my music through my last record, and it was shaped by this point in time where I was falling in love and it's really beautiful. Musgraves: I think that all albums are kind of an amalgamation of where you've been since people last heard from you. A lot of people are referring to this, kind of casually, as a "divorce album." Is that a fair characterization, do you think?
You were married to Ruston Kelly, who's a singer and songwriter, for about three years. #NowPlaying Kacey Musgraves, 'star-crossed'
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